Journal 04/18/2015 (a.m.)

    • In a common Western way of feeling, romantic love is paired with sexual desire. The lover feels both at once, yet the two feelings are in tension with each other. Desire is an appetite, self-regarding, pleasure seeking. Love is other-directed and entails placing the good of the beloved above one’s own. True love motivates the lover to master self-regarding desire. Loving self-restraint, because it subordinates desire to concern for the other’s well-being, in turn renders desire potentially innocent. When the beloved returns one’s love, and when neither of the two lovers’ well-being is threatened by sexual embrace, then love and desire may both be fulfilled without harm. The opposition between love and desire is thus a productive one. This peculiar dualism is unique to Western conceptions and practices.

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Journal 04/07/2015 (a.m.)

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